Friday, December 29, 2017

This year

This year has been the hardest yet.  I don't say that lightly either.  I know the first year of Lucy life was hard and it was littered with a lot of 'downs', but the difference is, at the time we didn't know anything else.  We didn't have time at home with Lucy, she didn't have the personality she has developed over the last three years and she didn't have a little brother.  This year has dragged us through the mud.  I sometimes wonder if she will ever be that person she was before this surgery.  I see flashes of her old self, but they are so quickly replaced by tears when I tell her she can't have water or she has to wait x amount of minutes before her next toothbrush dip or we need to do a finger prick to test her coagulation levels.  Yes, that's right.....we got our INR machine, so I have the pleasure of testing her myself.

If you didn't hear, or are not on Facebook, we were back in the hospital for another visit.   It was luckily a short stay and we made it home for Christmas, but it was just another reminder that although we are home, Lucy remains sick and fragile.

A week before Christmas, Lucy woke up in the morning and her mouth was all bloody, her lips were cracked and so dry.  We consulted with her cardiologist and decided to drop her diuretics on Tuesday knowing that we had an appointment on Friday to see Dr. Husayni.  It's no secret that she is on a lot of diuretics and because of the aspiration pneumonia that kept us in the hospital during her G tube surgery, she has been very limited in her oral intake.  Couple that with the decrease in her feeds because of her vomiting and she was super dry.  Wednesday and Thursday she wasn't herself, coughing a lot and more tired than normal.  Friday morning we packed up and headed to the hospital for her appointment.  She looked worse for wear.  We started with an echo to look at heart function and check for effusions.  Unfortunately, we could not see much fluid, so an x ray was ordered and it looked bad.  On all accounts we should have been admitted, but given it was a couple days before Christmas, we thought going back up on her dose of bumex (diuretic) would hopefully clear everything up.   As a precaution, the intensivist that was on over the weekend came down to look at Lucy.  It gave them a baseline.  We left and I was to send a picture of Lucy the following morning for them to review.  We didn't even make it to the morning.  Around 5:30 pm Lucy was still not herself, so we put on the pulse ox and her saturations were in the low 60's.  I immediately called the PSHU to let them know.  We were told to wait an hour to see if they would come up to her baseline of 73.  In that hour, we packed a bag.  An hour passed and nothing had changed, her saturation had actually lowered (upper 50's, very scary).  We packed the car and headed to the hospital.

We got to the hospital and were admitted directly to the PSHU.  Lucy opted for a wheelchair instead of a wagon.  When we got up to the ICU, Dr. Sajan looked at Lucy and was almost puzzled as to why we were there.  Physically she looked pretty good, so we put on a pulse ox and it read 55.  We needed to place an IV, but when we tried, Lucy went ballistic and dropped her saturations into the 30's.  We ordered versed and decided that nitric was necessary.  Seriously, versed is nothing to Lucy at this point.  She screamed bloody murder through all of it (as I held her down).  A couple doses of IV diuretics, some antibiotics and nitric and within twelve plus hours she was back to her norm.  We decided after weaning the nitric and switching back to oral meds, we would give her one more night to monitor and then home.  Just in time to host Christmas eve and for Santa.

We believe this episode was caused by aspiration, clouding her lungs and making the weaning of diuretics impossible.  With Lucy's oral intake at a minimum, her aspiration has to be mostly from vomiting.  So here we are, December 29th, headed back to the hospital for another procedure that will require us to stay overnight at the hospital.  I would not have thought we could have squeezed another stay at the hospital this year but.......we are first case for a vocal cord injection.  We are hoping that the injection will in essence, pump up her left vocal cord and allow the right side to compensate to fully close.  What does this do?  When Lucy goes to swallow, this will close her vocal cords completely closing off her airway and allowing all liquid to go down her esophagus to her belly.
I'll write more later when I have had time to process.  In the meantime we very much need prayers that this procedure will work.  This is a temporary fix which could not work at all.  There's a chance it lasts a year, but the likelihood is it lasts closer to 3-6 months, in which we would need to go back and do another injection.

Specific prayer requests
~vocal cord injection works and lasts a year
~there are no complications and we are discharged on Saturday
~After the procedure we can start to allow her to drink liquids

Monday, December 18, 2017

Red Tie

In 2014 the Children's Heart Foundation held their first Red Tie Ball, even though Lucy was in the hospital at the time, we were able to attend.  I fell in the love with the event for a few reason:

  1. Obviously.....raising money for CHD research.  Without this funding, advancements that have helped children like Lucy live past their first birthday and some into adulthood would not be possible.
  2. A night out with my husband.  Anyone with children will tell you they can put strain on a marriage.  When you add a chronic illness and A LOT of time spent apart due to splitting time at the hospital that strain can multiply.  So "nights out" however infrequent are so important
  3. Honoring those in the medical field that have had an impact on our lives.  I think sometimes in the wake of critical illness, the doctors, nurse practitioners and nurses take a back to seat to ups and downs of this journey.  The Red Tie Ball is a perfect setting to celebrate them.
The past two years, Lucy's doctor's have been recognized.  Her surgeon, Dr. Ilbawi and her cardiologist, Dr Husayni.  This year, Sarah, a nurse practitioner in the PSHU was honored with the Heart of Gold Award and I was humbled to be chosen to introduce her.  Her impact is beyond words, but I tried hard to encompass how much she means to our family.

Here is what I said:

Roughly four years ago, my husband and I stepped into Advocate Children’s hospital for the first time.  Unbeknownst to us, this hospital would become our second home.  Our daughter, Lucy was diagnosed Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome and she has done nothing by the book.  At one of our first appointments, I remember asking about recovery time, little did I know those numbers would never apply to us.  Lucy made us wait two months in the hospital before she was ready for her Norwood.  A routine catherization turned into an extra surgery and this summer after her Fontan she made us go back to the operating room to fenestrate, TWICE.  We have spent a good amount of time in the hospital, so it’s no surprise that the staff also became our family.

I met Sarah in 2014, during our first inpatient stay with Lucy.  While we didn’t have a lot of interaction, I have one memory of her from that time. We are standing in bed 6, quickly approaching 90 days in the hospital.  Lucy was technically not critical, but she cried a lot which was keeping us in the ICU.   We were discussing a move to the floor and Sarah looked at me and said,

"We would send Lucy down to the floor, but they will call up every time she cries.   If you want Lucy to move down there, you’ll have to move into the hospital."

Sounds like a dare, right?  Over the summer I had the opportunity to get to know Sarah.  What sounded like a dare, was just the truth.  My daughter was going to need someone to be with her 24 -7 and Sarah knew that.

Her brutal honesty coupled with her wit and humor help to soften the blow of the reality that is CHD.  It’s what kept me grounded over our 100 day hospital stay. It’s what put a smile on my face at least once a day.  How do you tell a mom whose been bedside for 60 days, there’s no way you’ll be out of the hospital in the next month and still make her smile.  That is Sarah.

Aside from her humor, her knowledge and ability to explain all things medical to a parent that is just trying to survive is impeccable.   Sarah spent countless hours in Lucy’s room discussing all of her issues, the approach and alternatives, medication and their impact, reviewing x-rays until I was comfortable in my understanding.  I often get complimented on how much I understand, and that is a credit to Sarah.

All these characteristics make Sarah an amazing nurse practitioner, but what truly makes her heart gold is her passion for her kids.  She is a fierce protector and advocate of her patients.  She has protected Lucy through and through, and she has stood in when I couldn’t be in the room……two trips placing NJ tubes, a bedside upper GI, an ENT scope and the removal of five chest tubes at the same time.  Lucy has some serious anxiety when it comes to the hospital.  But every time we go for an appointment or labs, one of the first things she says is ‘where’s my new friend Sarah?” and that is proof that Sarah’s impact far extends the hospital room.

I am honored to present this award to Sarah because from a parent and patient perspective she truly exemplifies a heart of gold.


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 As I saw Sarah surrounded by families and colleagues at this event, it is clear she is respected, admired and loved.  I am truly grateful for her knowledge, her input, her humor and her friendship.



new faces, new places

We are just over one week home and starting to settle in.  I am not going to lie, the first two night home were hard.  We were on feeds every four hours that ran over an hour.  The first night looked something like this:
7pm feed
8pm flush line and take of tube.
11 pm feed
12 am flush line and take of tube
3 am feed
4 am flush line and take off tube
5 am start work

We did this for two nights and I quickly realized it was not a schedule any of us could maintain!  Lucy was awake for the beginning and end of the feeds to attach or remove the tube extension, so she wasn't getting good sleep either.  Do you know what a toddler can be like with no sleep....so you can guess that our days weren't all sunshine and rainbows.  Add to that, she threw up after 3 straight feeds going into Friday.  We decided to adjust the schedule.  

We came home on 6 feeds of 135 mL over an hour for a total of 810 mL (and about 650 calories).  Since she wasn't able to keep it down and we also want to cater to a normal eating schedule, we lowered the volume and went to 3 feeds during the day (100 mL) at breakfast, lunch and afternoon snack.  Then before bed we hook her up and do continuous feeds from 8 pm to 5 am.  This way everyone gets some good sleep and we are still shutting off the feeds in time for her belly to prepare for breakfast.  Our medications have not changed, but we are adjusting the schedule to coincide with feeding so we aren't taking the tube on and off.

The g tube is something to get used too.  The first couple days Lucy would cry anytime we picked it up, mentioned feeds or medicine.  I am not sure if it actually hurt when putting the tube in, or if it was more mental than anything, but I too had some anxiety around it.  Just like everything else, the more you do it, the easier it gets.

After being the hospital for so long, I always want our return home to speed up recovery.  I wish it were that easy:  that her eating would turn around, that the throwing up would stop, that physically she could do everything like before.  But all of it takes time and I for one can't wait for us to be once again tube free doing all things normally.  In order to get to that point we decided to get a second opinion regarding matters not of the heart.  We scheduled our first appointment with Lurie Children's hospital in their Aerodigestive Program.  (Unfortunately for us, Advocate children's hospital does not have one).  The program serves children with complex airway disorders, requiring pulmonary, upper digestive tract, sleep voice and swallowing evaluations.  We are hoping this program will be able to help us answer some questions regarding digestion and her vocal cord paresis and also help keep her lungs healthy.  The appointment went well (aside from the flexible scope we had to do).  We met with GI, ENT, speech and the APN.  We came out of it with our first procedure scheduled:  a gastric emptying test at the beginning of January.  If you know me, you know I am a creature of routine and change is hard for me.  I like to plan.  The arrival of Lucy almost 4 years ago has really challenged me in that area of my life.   Yet again, this will be another 'change' we will tackle.  New faces, new hospital, new location.  The clinic is once a month, so we'll head to the city and I can only assume this will become part of our new routine that is bound to change. 

Here we are in the waiting room at Lurie's

And Lucy with her trusty drinking toothbrush



















When I started this blog back in 2013, it was a way to keep family and friends updated on what was happening with the pregnancy, birth and Lucy's heart journey.  While that is still the main focus, it's allowed me a place to air my feelings, good and bad, celebrate accomplishments and to share with Lucy (eventually) those that impacted our lives during this journey.....see next post.




Saturday, December 2, 2017

frail

Lucy is fragile.  Lucy has had life saving surgery.  Lucy has been close to death.  Those words are hard to say and it's probably why I have never said them.  But the reality is that she is very fragile and minor surgery like a g tube is making that evident.  I know, I know, no surgery is minor.  But compared to what we have been through for Lucy it should be.  It's possible  that I want her to be strong physically so I convinced myself she is.  Yet again, I have been fooled.

Maybe it was the success of our NG trial that had me so hopeful.  We placed the NG tube Friday night (thank you to those that offered to come help, it was truly appreciated).  We did continuous feeds at 20 mL/hour overnight.  Saturday we increased to 30 mL/hour.  With minimal throwing up, we decided to try some bolus feeds.  I know, optimistic.  To my surprise, she handled 60 mL/hour, then three more bolus feeds at 90 mL/hour.  Going into this surgery that was our biggest concern, her stomach couldn't handle the feeds.  Surgery on Monday went as expected with no issues.  The hardest part was no eating or drinking the first day.  Tuesday we could eat so we made a grocery list to ensure we had all the food she wanted.

-black olives
-extra sharp cheddar cheese
-canned green beans
-peanut butter and honey for sandwiches
-strawberries
-grapes, the peeled ones (she doesn't know I do this by hand or she does and does not care)
-orange juice
-orange chips (sour cream and cheddar)
-crackers

Sour cream and guacamole were added because those are some favorite from home.
Quite the palette for three year old.  As much as she asks for food, she eats hardly any.
Tuesday, we started feeds slowly at 20 mL/hour for four hours.  No issues!  But slowly as the day went on her breathing changed.  We started her first bolus feed of 60 mL/hour, but mid way through she looked really distended.  We stopped and gave her a glycerin chip to help her poop. The doctor decided it was better to do continuous feeds overnight.

By Wednesday morning, holy crap......she was puffy!  So much so, she dropped her saturations to the low 50's and we had to switch over to high flow oxygen at 10 liters.


The stress of this minor surgery (I use that term loosely) wreaked havoc on her body.  Her x-ray on Tuesday and Wednesday (along with her echo) showed a small effusion, but nothing that should be impacting her this heavily.  Wednesday the team decided to give an IV dose of lasix, and boy oh boy.  her diaper was huge.  Although it helped it didn't solve the problem.  Lucy kept dipping her saturations and she started retracting (for those that don't know retractions are a sucking in of the skin in between or around the bones of the chest when inhaling).  Honestly before this....I have never seen Lucy retract.

We hoped the extra IV diuretics would do the trick, so we gave Lucy a day and skipped x-ray on Thursday and took a trip down to radiology Friday morning.  An x-ray can be more clear when you stand than laying in a bed (hence the trip).  Probably a good thing we did.  The x-ray showed the same small effusion and aspiration pneumonia.  This girl seriously can't catch a break.

How did this happen?  It's possible some of this has been happening slowly over the last couple months.  Although we tried hard to restrict her from thin liquids, I can't say she hasn't gotten her hands on some.  It's also possible, it happened over the course of this week.  With being intubated for surgery, more damage to her vocal cords could have allowed small amounts of liquid to slip into her lungs.  Either way it happened, it doesn't really matter, because it's there and we have to stay until it clears up.  Today, in order to do everything possible, we put Lucy back on high flow with nitric, added IV diuretics back, started an antibiotic and restricted her drinking.  Feels like square one, nitric was a bitch to wean over the summer and I am not looking forward to doing it again.

This was a huge blow and evidence of Lucy's frailty but we still have some good news to report.  Lucy is successfully handling her feeds (on a home regimen at that...this is huge!).  Although we will probably be in the hospital longer than we wanted, we can start to play around with her feeds.  The worst part is the tube site is still pretty sore and she HATES when we have to take the tube on and off.  It should get better as it heals, but for know it sucks!

Her demeanor is touch and go.  Sometimes she is great and just hilarious!  Bossing people around, she literally told one of the cardiac fellows to go get her ice.  She also still has a little PTSD from our summer.  I have to give all her meds and anytime someone is by her bed she says "She is not going to touch me, right?"  Breaks my heart!  We have been able to get her up and out of bed.  Unfortunately we have had to use presents under the Christmas tree in the unit to do so.  There is a Mickey Mouse figure that "brings presents" but the caveat is that Lucy has to walk there from her room to get the present.  Her first present was a backpack doll house courtesy of my Aunt Betsy and her granddaughter (who knows hospital life all too well) and her second present was Sadness (her favorite character from the movie inside out) courtesy of one of our favorite nurses, Kate.  Hopefully we bust out of the hospital soon, because she won't have any other presents to get come Christmas




Tuesday, November 21, 2017

G tube here we come

Here we go, prepping for another surgery, another hospital stay and another chance to showcase Lucy's strength.  Surgery is officially scheduled for next Monday, the 27th.  Deep breath.  These past couple weeks we have been meeting with some new doctors and discussing plans for this surgery. 

First we met with Dr. Smith (GI doctor) to discuss her history, talk about her feeding schedule and what issues we had with her stomach during the last hospital stay.  The evaluation was minimally invasive as the most he did was take a look at her belly and listen.  We discussed GJ tube versus G tube and the complications that come along with surgery.  Then ended the evaluation with a follow up phone call after some discussions with cardiology.

Two days later we had our pre-op appointment with Dr. Chokshi (pediatric surgeon).  He came recommended and at first meeting, I could tell I was going to like him.  Megan (RN for general surgery) was a familiar face from back in 2014 when we spent two weeks in the step down unit.  Their demeanor through our appointment put me at ease as we discussed our surgery options.  The big theme I was getting from both appointments is that nobody wants Lucy to have the GJ tube.  It comes with many complications post-op and can extend surgery time.  But there are also reservations regarding the G tube:  her throwing up, she hasn't been fed to her stomach since May and her stomach's motility.  So, what happens?  We go for an immediate upper GI.  Radiology was able to squeeze us in immediately.  Thanks a bunch, wink, wink.  Remember last post when I said the ENT evaluation was bad.  THAT.  WAS.  NOTHING!

The upper GI consists of drinking about 2 ounces of Barium, then filming how the liquid moves through the digestive tract.  From her swallow study, I knew she wouldn't be able to drink it (because of the taste she immediately threw it up), which meant we would have to place an NG tube to get the barium to her stomach.  She flailed and screamed and cried her eyes out and it was really hard to watch her go through it.  I try hard to never cry while it's happening, to talk her through it, stay calm and reassure her that it will only be for a little bit.  I've tried to adopt a saying 'we can do anything for just a little bit'.  I am not sure if it has helped, but I will say, Lucy always ALWAYS bounces back so quickly.  Most of the time I do too, honestly most of my tears come after the fact, talking about it (or recapping here).

The results of the upper GI were good.  They showed her stomach emptied rather quickly and gave Dr. Chokshi some data to discuss options.  Last Thursday Megan called to tell me everyone wanted to do a NG feeding trial to see what her stomach can handle.

Our first option was a week trial with the NG tube.   Absolutely not.  If she was not able to handle it and threw up most of what we fed her, that would leave us with a week without food heading into surgery.

Next option, admit to the hospital on Friday (11/17), pull NJ, place NG and trial feeds over the weekend.  If feeds go well, go home with NG tube.  If they do not, place the NJ on Monday and go home.  Absolutely not.  Placing the NJ tube was painful.  Her current NJ tube took three hours to place.  When we pull the NJ tube, we are pulling it for the last time.

Last option, admit this Friday (11/24), NG trial over the weekend and go to surgery Monday morning. I asked if we could do this at home.  If she was not able to handle it, I would bring her in immediately for admit so we could get her fluids before surgery.  They obliged.

I am thankful to have a voice for Lucy and that our doctors take to heart what we talk about.

This Thursday we will also be thankful for all we have overcome and Friday will start our next journey.  Friday morning we will give Lucy's morning meds, then pull her NJ tube.  We'll give her the day to enjoy and then early evening we will place the NG tube and start feeds overnight.  I am starting with a lower volume to test her and then will slowly increase over the course of the weekend.  Wish us luck!

Our specific prayer requests are
~Our home trial works and we do not have to be admitted early for IV fluids.
~The trial determines that we can move forward with the less risky G tube.
~Surgery and recovery is as close to standard as possible.
~An open bed in the PSHU, because of Lucy's anxiety, I'd like her to be in a familiar place.  If no beds are available, it would mean a bed in the PICU (i.e. new faces)


Friday, November 3, 2017

Never have I ever

'Never Have I Ever' is a drinking game I played in college.  The gist is you follow up that phrase with an action and if you have done the action you have to drink.

   Never have I ever gotten lost ..........drink
   Never have I ever been arrested.......drink
   Never have I ever thrown up in public.....drink

You get the idea.  As a mom, I have said a bunch of time, I never thought.  If I took this game from my college days and changed it around a bit, I would be face down on the bathroom floor.

Never did I ever think I would be so familiar with the hospital...........................drink
Never did I ever think I would l to worry about my child's fat intake.................drink
Never did I ever think I would potty train my kids at the same time..................drink
Never did I ever think I would have a medication schedule..............................drink
Never did I ever think I would carry around a medical resume.........................drink
Never did I ever think after all the hard work a G-tube would be needed........drink

Here's the thing about CHD, it impacts so much more than just the heart.  And sometimes that isn't always discussed when you get the diagnosis. I mean, I get why.  Not all kids are the same.  Some have their surgeries and encounter minimal other issues.  But kids like Lucy, that is just not the case.  A perfect example would be our latest hospital stay.  In those 100 days we saw at least seven specialties.

Cardiology
Respiratory
Nephrology
Infectious disease
Gastroenterology
ENT
Psychiatry
Radiology

 Last week we went back to the hospital for a swallow study, ENT evaluation and her bridle change.
The swallow study went really well.  It was so fun to watch Lucy interact with Jen.  She was goofy,  talkative and showed no signs of being scared.  Quite a difference from our hospital meetings.  Lucy got up in the special chair, next to the big camera and sampled the food that Jen "made".  For the study, a dye has to be put on all the food so it can be tracked through chewing and swallowing.  We sampled thin, nectar, puree and solid food.  She passed on everything as long as the volume was small.  We got approved to give nectar liquids in amounts of 2.5 to 5 mL at a time.  We are not on a liquid (amount) restriction since her diuretics are so high, but we are trying not to go overboard.  We aim for four to six ounces by mouth a day.  The ENT evaluation was a little more traumatic and Dr. Sherman had to put the scope up her nose to view her vocal cords.  She sat in my lap and I held her like a straight jacket, while the nurse held her head and Dr. Sherman placed the scope.  She screamed, maybe the loudest I have heard in awhile.  Lucy's vocal cords have healed a bit but  there is still some compensation from the left side to close them all the way.  At this time, no intervention was needed, but he stressed that the NJ tube is impacting all of it.  And then he said those dreaded words:  G tube.
Now, I'm not scared of the actual g-tube.  I have heard amazing things about kids getting them.  I think it's that is another surgery and another hospital stay.  But honestly the hardest part is that we worked SO SO HARD to get her eating, that to be back here talking about g-tubes is just another punch in the gut.  I was hopeful we would have some time to work on her eating before definitively deciding about the surgery, but my gut was telling me get prepared.

Fast forward to yesterday and our cardiology appointment.  We had a blood draw for labs and it only took me two months and five trips to remember the lidocaine for arm.  It didn't help much, so maybe it's not that big of deal that I haven't remembered.  Then an EKG and vitals.  Last we sat down with Dr. Husayni to discuss what has been happening over the last month.   Since our last appointment we have seen her physical strength increase along with her energy level, but her oral intake has decrease tremendously.  We are lucky that we have not seen her weight tank as that would mean an admittance.  And he finally said it, we need a GI evaluation so we can get an idea of what her digestive system is doing.  I asked what the probability of the G-tube was and his response was, she needs it.  My eyes get watery as I start to dread another hospital stay.
Me:  How long is the average stay
Dr. Husayni:  about 2-3 days
Me:  So Lucy at least a week
Dr.  Husayni:  You are veteran, you know how it goes
Me:  When?
Dr. Husayni:  We should do it this year.

And there you have it.  2017 can officially suck it!!!!  We will start with GI evaluation, then look to schedule the surgery.

While this news definitely overshadowed the good that has happened this month.  There is still good!  We have decreased some medications and stopped another one.  We have adjusted her feeding times.  Hooking her up at 4 pm was not working out because Lucy can't quite grasp that the feeding pole has to come with her when she gets up to move.  We started feeding her at nap time so that we could delay the night feed until she went to bed.  The other change we made was moving up her night dose of diuretics to 4 pm, so that there were no more accidents and I don't have to wake her up to change her diaper 3 times overnight.  BUT what I love is that Lucy loves Dr. Husayni.  While we were getting vitals he walked by and she got so excited she made him come in for a hug.  Then she helped him listen to her.  When we were finished, she asked if he would walk us out.  I hope this sweet relationship grows stronger as he helps to guide her through this journey.




My biggest fear with this surgery is how it will impact Lucy's mental state.  She still has anxiety when I leave and many times at night she asks "you're not gonna leave".  We try really hard to ease her fears and to explain everything that is happening but sometimes that is just not enough.  While she is smart enough to understand she still get scared.  I truly hope I will be able to say, this was the easiest one yet.



Sunday, October 8, 2017

Eating, it's always the eating

Where do I start?  HOME, HOME is amazing.  I actually went back and read my blog from our first homecoming (Lucy was six pounds at five months old, that seems crazy) and some of the feelings are the same.  New medications, oxygen and feeding pump were a big change from when we came to the hospital and I definitely was feeling a bit overwhelmed.  But just like last time, a day in and I felt a lot better.  Our wild card: Connor.  Luckily, my parents kept him at their house for our first week home.  It really allowed us to focus on Lucy and get settled.  The first few days Lucy slept a lot and she needed it.  She was able to be awake for about two hours at a time and then would crash.  She would fall asleep wherever, family room floor, sitting up on the office couch or her fabulous, comfortable BIG GIRL bed.

Her extended napping allowed me to re-organize the medication cabinet and unpack.

our schedule looked like this:
7 am - 8 medications
7:15 - weigh in  and breakfast
9 am - napping
12 pm - lunch
1 pm - 3 medications
2 pm - napping
4 pm - 1 medication and start feeds
6 pm - 4 medications
6:30 pm - bed time
7 pm - 8 medications
8 pm - add formula to feeds
11 pm - 1 medication
12 am - add formula
4 am - shut off feeding pump and flush NJ tube

The one thing I did not anticipate (although I probably should have) was the effect of the diuretics.  The first two nights, at least once, Lucy peed through the diaper.  Let me tell you, there is a fine line you walk, allowing her to sleep without interruption and changing her diaper before it leaks through  to her sheets.  When that happens, it's a big production.  Getting her out of bed, changing the sheets, you know the drill.  After three times of missing the window, I came up with a new plan.  Her bed is now an arsenal of protection against a leaky diaper.  First fitted sheet, then mattress protector, next another fitted sheet, and last a thick blanket.  This leaves me three leaks before I have to completely strip the bed.  We are on to week five and have a pretty good night time routine.  She gets her last diuretic at 7 pm.  If she goes right to bed, then we diaper change at 8:30, 11 pm and 3 am.  If she stays up until 8 pm, we get a clean diaper on then a change at 10 pm and 3 am.  3 am is when her feeds usually error out, so I am getting up anyway.  Error out sounds like the wrong thing to say, but what I have found with the feeding pumps is they are not calibrated very well.  She usually gets her total amount of formula (720 mL) in under the twelve hours and when the formula is gone, the pump will display a error message.

While I thought our biggest obstacle at home was going to be physical therapy, it appears that once again feeding issues will take the cake.  But not in the way I thought.  Lucy very much wants to eat and aside from thin liquids and fat our options are unlimited.  (Did you get that joke?).  Our fat free diet has us really restricted, but I have been able to get some variety into her diet.  Purees are our best because they take the least amount of energy to consume.  Our diet has been made up of soups, fruits, veggies, mashed potatoes and noodles.  Her favorite, by far, sour cream, plain, in a bowl eating it with a spoon.  Here is our hurdle, Lucy has thrown up at least once (but most times 2 or more) every single day since we have been home.  Sometimes it happens immediately after she eats.  Other times it's hours after a meal.  However, it doesn't seem to phase her.  She has thrown up and in the next breath asked for more food.  I was hopeful that her want of eating would allow us to decrease her tube feeding quickly, but her throwing up does not really let us get a good picture of her caloric intake.  Until we have a string of days without throw up, we will probably remain on twelve hour feeds.  The good news is we are coming up on the end of our eight week fat free diet.  I asked our cardiologist if we could remain on fat free formula so that we could increase her fat intake by mouth expand her variety of food.  We got the green light, so we will be able to foods with 3 grams of fat per serving.


We started physical therapy through Easter Seals and our therapist is able to come to the house while Lucy is still on two liters of oxygen.  We'll see her once a week, then when Lucy goes back to school, Laura would be able to come take her out of school for therapy and it would not be an extra trip.  She is so ahead of where I thought she would be.  She wasn't able to stand when we first came home but know, she is walking and WITHOUT her walker most of the time.  Then we will just need to strengthen everything.  In no time, she'll be jumping and running just like she was.  Let's just hope when that time comes she is not still on her feeding tube.  It has been slightly hard to explain to her that when she is getting feeds she cannot just get up and go.  She has to make sure her pump comes with her.  I have been trying to get her to use it as support for walking but it's quite awkward to do on carpet.


Lastly, our one month follow-up went very well.  We ended up not changing the bridle on her NJ tube which was why it went so well.  Her echo had no changes from her previous one.  Clinically she looked good and her saturations were in the high 70's.  Her last two INR's (test for warfarin) were both 2.0 (which is in range: 2.0-2.5), so we are able to now test every two weeks.  We decreased one of her diuretics and also stopped another medication, which was nice because I was able to re-arrange her medication schedule so that she no longer is getting medication during nap time.  We go back in another month and we will probably start talking about a swallow study and ENT consult.  She has snagged Connor's sippy cup a few times and even drank her bath water, so I think we are at the point where we need to give her another try at thin liquids.

We continue to be blessed by all of you who keep us in your prayers for continued healing, THANK YOU!
Here she is taking her first few steps! 

Friday, September 15, 2017

a bittersweet goodbye

This will sound weird, but leaving the hospital can be bittersweet.  Discharge can be filled with so many emotions: excitement to be home, anxiety to be the sole caregivers, worry that you will miss a warning sign and fear of a re-admittance.  But the hardest thing to describe is how a group of individuals doing their job can easily become like family.  For 100 days I spent twelve hours or more a day in Lucy's hospital room.  To give you an idea, that's thirty work weeks. (assuming you work 40 hours/week)  That is over 1/2 a year of work.   Just think about the co-workers you like (we all know there are some we don't) and what relationships you can form within that time.  Here is what I know, not only did they care for and love Lucy, but they made my days tolerable.  And that's not an easy feat.  When you don't see an end in sight and someone can walk in the room and put a smile on your face, it speaks volumes about the type of people who work in the Surgical Heart Unit.  I can't say enough good things about the team!

As you can see our extended family is pretty fabulous










Discharge was not like any other we experienced.  Due to having to draw labs up to the very last day and the fact that she had no open real estate for a picc line, we were discharged from the ICU instead of moving down to Floor 2.  The last week we had been fine tuning her warfarin, potassium and sodium dosing.   The goal was to get a schedule that was manageable at home.  To me, the schedule didn't matter, I would have given medications every hour through the night if it meant we could go home.  On top of packing up the room, getting our home medications ordered and figuring out tolerex, we also had to change the bridle holding the NJ tube.  The bridle, like an NG tube needs to be changed every 30 days.  We thought it best to change it, right before discharge instead of at a follow up appointment because we were able to give a dose of versed.  However, after changing it, I am convinced that versed does nothing....Lucy screamed bloody murder through the whole thing.  If you aren't familiar, the bridle is a string that is looped around the vomer bone and secured with a clip on the NJ tube.  To place the string there are two flexible tubes with a small magnet on the end.  A tube is inserted into each nostril until the magnet connects and then it is pull through and clipped.  I do not look forward to doing that again!
By 7 pm on Friday night, the room was mostly packed into Mike's car to be brought home, all but one medicine was received and tolerex was to be delivered Sunday.  My room at Ronald McDonald House was also packed except for necessities.  The last part of discharge was to review medication doses and timing , feedings and review appointments.  Let me tell you, it's a bit overwhelming, even though we've done this before.  The biggest change is that multiple medications have to be cut and dissolved.  And the sheer number is steep.  Her current medication list is



Bumex
Bosentan
Potassium
Sodium Chloride
digoxin
diuril
aldactone
Sildenafil
warfarin
aspirin
multivitamin
melatonin
colace
pantoprazole




She gets eight medications at 7 am and 7 pm, then multiple medications throughout the day at 1 pm, 4 pm, 6 pm and 11 pm.  Her feeds will run from 4 pm to 4 am at 60 mL per hour.  She is still not allowed to drink liquids due to aspiration and we are still working off a fat free diet.

However overwhelming, it doesn't matter because..........WE ARE FINALLY HOME

It's hard to believe it's almost two weeks post discharge.  We have had three follow up appointments for labs and x ray, all which have looked good.  Today we go for full appointment with Lucy's cardiologist.  Stayed tuned for an update on our appointment and what it's been like at home.

Till then...


Thursday, August 31, 2017

blessed with support

  First, I'd like to personally thank all my friends and family that came out to support us last Saturday night.  I was overwhelmed with emotion by how many people attended, donated items, money or time to our 4th Annual Have a Heart Event.  I am not going to lie, planning from Lucy's hospital room wasn't the easiest.  However, over the last three months it has offered a distraction that has gotten me through some of the tough days.  Two weeks prior to the event, we buckled down to get everything ready (which is why there was a lack of blog posts).  If you weren't able to attend, here's a couple things we talked about:

Most of you know the idea of LJ's Healing Hearts started from a fundraiser held for our family, but little know exactly what we did with the money raised that first year before creating the nonprofit organization.  Each year we have used a some of the money raised to cover costs associated with Lucy's care.  These costs include:
 - tolerex formula (it runs up to $450 a case, which covers about 1 month)
 - Early intervention family fee (yes, the service is not free and your fee is based on income)
 - medical bills (Lucy's pre fontan catherization in February cost roughly $2800 after insurance)

It will also cover insurance premiums this year (to keep Lucy's coverage) while I am on unpaid leave.

I am so thankful because it has allowed our family to do things that we might not have been able to, like move to a house where Lucy has her own room or upgrade our car to make room for Connor.  Through LJ's Healing Hearts we want to afford other families this opportunity as well.  However, many families have told us they are managing the financial impact of CHD.  We hope to expand our reach by working with social workers from local hospitals that have heart centers, this includes Advocate Children's Hospital and Ann and Robert H Lurie Children's Hospital.

Now back to Lucy!  After her effusion and being back on all IV diuretics, we needed to reassess.
An echo and EKG were ordered to check her heart function, still good.  The one thing that has held strong through all of this, thanking GOD!  Next we reviewed her medications and decided to replace lasix with oral bumex.  We also added metolazone.  Last we moved her IV diuril to oral.  By Tuesday night (8/22/17) we were back on all oral meds, albeit very strong diuretics.  The team felt she would need at least a week on all oral medications before a discharge date was even considered.  Over the course of the week we made no other changes.  On Friday she finished her course of the antibiotic augmentin.  It's used to treat pneumonia, or in Lucy's case, aspiration pneumonia.  This can develop after you aspirate food, liquid or vomit into your lungs.  With her vocal cord weakness, this is something than can happen easily.  It doesn't help that her stomach is not in prime working order either, because she has been throwing up at least once a day.

This week, we stopped metolazone and watched each day to see if fluid or pneumonia showed on an x-ray.  On Wednesday it looked hazy again and my heart sank.  We would either have to go back on the third diuretic and wait for her x-ray to be clear or limit her foods a little more to stop her aspiration.  Luckily, for the first time in 99 days, yup that number is correct, it was a fluke.  Thursday morning her x-ray looked much better.  For the first time, we feel like we are in a good place physically.  And there is a light at the end of the tunnel that is home.

Now onto the best part of the last week.  Lucy's personality has emerged and it has been blessing to see, even better that it's happened in this environment.  Lucy has a catchphrase at home.  It's "I have an idea".  Usually the conversation goes like this:
    L:  "Oh, I have an idea" while holding her index finger up in the air, with a smirk
   Me:  "What is it?"
    L:  "I don't know"

It's been quite a while since we've heard that phrase and seen animation in her voice and gestures.  As she get stronger and stronger, she gets closer to the girl we brought to the hospital in May.  With her limited diet, we've had to be pretty creative with her menu.  She has been asking for ice cream (not allowed because it's a liquid), so the other day I got frozen fat free cool whip and put it in a cone.  She was so excited, I thought she night jump off her bed.

We also were able to bring Connor up to visit again and they were able to play on the floor together.
They even showed each some love with a kiss.



I can say the first thing I will do when we get home is plop her into a bath.  Her hair is covered in tolerex, blood and probably a hundred other things.  I mean how else does she wake up with hair looking this crazy

We are asking that you pray for Lucy's health to stay the course and that home is on the horizon.

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

waiting, waiting

I was waiting and waiting to write this because I really wanted to be able to say we were moving to floor two!  But alas, we hit another bump in the road.  A small bump, but one that is keeping us in the ICU.

Last week, we finally were able to come off nitric Wednesday morning and the team immediately scheduled the swallow study for the same day.  We had two full extra days of practicing with purees, so I was really hopeful.  Lucy got a dose of versed and we wheeled her, bed and all, down to radiology.  For the swallow study, the x-ray table is placed vertically with a high chair next to it.  We have a plate of food, that consists of thin liquid, nectar, puree and solid.  All have a dye that shows up in the x-ray.  We offer each to Lucy and watch as she swallows.  She was not a happy camper through most of it, but Jen (our speech therapist) assured us she did great.  She passed on solid food, but failed on thin liquids and nectar.  So what does that mean?  It means that Lucy is able to have any solid or puree foods she wants, but cannot drink at all.  Panic, right?  Not Lucy.  She has not asked for a drink since she has been able to eat solid foods.  We are still on a restricted fat diet, so our options are somewhat limited.  But Lucy has been happy with egg whites and fat free cheese, pasta with marinara, all the broccoli and beans she can eat and some fat free turkey.  This weekend we did a calorie count and she was up to about 250 calories a day.  I will keep having to remind myself that eating takes almost all of her energy and it will take time for her to be able to consume all her needs orally.

The rest of the week we looked to make more small adjustments to her treatments and medications.  We have been off all IV medications for over a week.  We slowly started to ween some of her diuretics, anxiety medications and are still getting the dosing right on her coumadin.  With the addition of food, we needed to increase her dose.  It looked like we were in a good spot over the weekend and even got outside both days.  After coming off the high flow cannula, there was anticipation of a possible move to the floor mid week.  Unfortunately, a small plural effusion showed up on the x-ray Monday.  We decided our best course of action was a dose of IV diuril.  Today, the effusion appeared bigger and two more doses were ordered.  The CPT vest treatments that were stopped over the weekend were also added back twice a day.  With rounds over in a matter of thirty minutes, reality that we would probably ride out the rest of the week in the ICU set in.  We need to clear this plural effusion and then get on a home regimen that will keep the fluid away.

I said it a few weeks ago, how this stay was eerily similar to our first.  I did not realize how right I was:
2014 - 2 surgeries, 2 codes, multiple intubations, Laryngoscopy, 84 days in the ICU
2016 - 3 surgeries, 2 codes, multiple intubations, laryngoscopy, and tomorrow marks 84 days in the ICU

As we work to get the fluid off, I will continue to try to make Lucy laugh and remember that as hard as this is, for our family to be split, it is not permanent.
I went for a walk tonight, as I passed a church, 1 Peter 5:7 scrolled across moving message board.
'Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you'.  So I am going to try to do that!

Her personality is slowly starting to show through!  Oh how I missed it.








Tuesday, August 8, 2017

even a small milestone, is a milestone

Two weeks ago, Dr. Nater had been contemplating a laryngoscopy, but we really felt that Lucy, from a mental standpoint could not handle it.  The conversation continued and last Tuesday evening we ended up going ahead with the ENT evaluation because we needed to get a good look at her throat and vocal cords.  We wanted our speech therapist there to be able to give some insight.  Again, with her anxiety sky high, we gave her a healthy dose of versed and then the team kicked us out of the room.  Surprisingly, Lucy did fantastic with the laryngoscopy.  This procedure is where a thin flexible viewing tube is passed through the nose and guided to the vocal cords.  They were able to get a good look at her vocal cords and there was no additional damage from intubation.  On the fly, they decided to offer her some pureed fruits and she accepted.  We were able to see that she was not aspirating on thicker foods.  A big success and even better that they were able to do it all at the bedside.

We got the okay to offer pureed foods:  a total of five teaspoons, three times a day.  That equals about three medicine cups of food a day.  The funniest thing happened though, after the laryngoscopy, I thought she would be put off by foods for another couple days, if not more.  The very next morning I get to her room and she looks at me and asks for water and animal crackers.  I was able to steer her back to puree fruits, but another huge win.  I actually thought we wouldn't need a swallow study after that, but unfortunately, in order for her to consume thin liquids we have to again make sure she is not aspirating.  In order to do that, we need to be off nitric.  It was our plan to start weening on Friday to hopefully be off for a full day and do the swallow study Monday morning.  We started the day at 10 parts and got as low as five, but Lucy kept having these spells where she would dip her saturations into the fifties.  The worst part is that she was showing no signs of distress, no retractions, no increased respiratory rate.  It is really scary to think about being at home for that to happen.  You aren't hooked up to monitors at home, so you really rely on those signs to tell you something is wrong.  Needless to say, she did this all weekend and by Monday morning we were still on 10 parts of nitric.

Here's the crazy part, when you're doing good and improving it's really easy to lose sight of the progress you make.  The little things don't seem so important.  If I think back, coming off the breathing tube (twice), decreasing chest tube drainage over the course of week, pulling chest tubes and coming off all IV medications seemed like giant milestones.  As I stood in rounds Monday morning to discuss the plans for the day, I started to cry.  The first thing I said, "I'm so frustrated because I don't feel like we made no progress over the last week",  Yet in two paragraphs, I have summed up a week of milestones.  How easily I forgot that eating, just eating, is such a big milestone for Lucy.



Through the rest of the week into the weekend, Lucy continued to ask for food (none of which she can have), graham crackers, avocado, ice cream, and sour cream with onion strings.  Luckily, almost every time I can offer her pears or apples and she accepts.

Monday plans were to ween slowly.  Instead of dropping 2-3 parts every four hours, we dropped by 1 every six hours.  The hope is by tomorrow she will be off nitric and we can do a swallow study on Thursday.  The only other thing keeping us in the ICU is her oxygen.  We have bounced around from four to twenty liters based on her saturation levels.  Today, they also decided to give her blood.  What they hope is that this blood will bridge the gap and give her some extra red blood cells to carry oxygen to the body.  Since we are continually doing labs for electrolytes and coagulation, we are removing blood faster than she can create red blood cells to carry oxygen.  After the blood was given, her saturations took a nice jump to the 80's.  We'll see if that has a lasting impact and we can bring her oxygen down.

I would also like to give a shout out to all the friends and family that have helped with Connor over that last couple weeks.  As most of you know, he has stayed with my parents full time since Memorial day (holy cow, how long ago was Memorial day).  We clearly did not anticipate being in the hospital this long, so when it came time for them to move so many stepped up and helped to care for him so Mike and I could continue to focus on Lucy.  It is quite a relief to know he is in great hands!

We continue to be blessed by all that have supported us.  Thank you.

For those that like to have specific prayers, here they are:
For Lucy to pass her swallow study and be able to eat and drink to her desire (albeit fat free).
For her saturations to remain above 75
For us to be moved to the floor ASAP

I'll leave you with this cute interaction.  This past week, I brought up Lambie, one of Lucy's bedtime buddies.  She was so sweet when I showed her giving him hugs and then they colored together.








Monday, July 31, 2017

Promise

I definitely followed through on my promise.  Friday, the 21st, the breathing tube came out and I made sure we got time together out of the bed.  It was a long time coming, 58 days to be exact.


The biggest concern when pulling the tube was her lungs and making sure the secretions we being coughed up.  We started with CPT vest therapy.  This involves an inflatable vest that is attached to a machine.  The machine mechanically performs chest physical therapy by vibrating at a high frequency.  The vibrations to the chest loosen and thin the mucus.  This vest treatment is most commonly used in patients with cystic fibrosis.

We scheduled vest treatments every two hours during the day and every fours hours overnight to make sure her lungs stayed open.  Surprisingly, the worst part for Lucy is getting the vest on.  After its on, she usually falls asleep.  However, having the respiratory therapist come in her room every two hours, along with other staff in and out all day, Lucy's anxiety is at an all time high.  So much so, that she started grinding her teeth.  Can you imagine sitting in a room with someone grinding their teeth for an hour?  Now do it for twelve hours?  I may need medication soon!
We are working hard to keep the traffic in her room down and some anxiety medication throughout the day.  At night, we are using melatonin to help her sleep through the night and it has allowed for a string of good ones.  Better sleep equals better days!

Last week we started prepping for home.  Don't get too excited, there's no official (or unofficial) date.  Home oxygen and feeding supplies were ordered.  All of her IV medications have been switched to oral.  Coumadin has been started to get her dosing just right and we'll look to stop heparin.  In order to get to floor two (step down) we still need a few things to happen.  We need to be off nitric completely and off high flow.  That means Lucy needs to keep her saturations above 75 with less than two liters of oxygen.  Right now we are on four liters and are experiencing some episodes where her saturations drop to the fifties.  The other issue is her stomach.  We are still draining a significant amount from the NG tube.  When we have tried to clamp it to see if she can handle it, she ends up throwing up the bile.  Unfortunately, being intubated put her as a high risk for aspiration.  Aspirating on vomit could have a huge impact on her lungs.  We don't quite have answers and will have an ENT evaluation in the next couple days.  With that risk, it means she also can't have food.  Luckily for us, she isn't very interested in food or water.  We will need a swallow study before we can proceed with oral feedings.  Whether that happens as in patient or out patient procedure will depend entirely on Lucy's desire to eat.

We have been working to get Lucy stronger and have been out of bed several times.  She can usually last about thirty minutes and can sit up on her own without support for at least ten minutes.  Each day she is getting a little stronger.  And each day we get some more big smiles.


Her favorite thing is to play with play doh. For those at home, that's a hot dog, banana, blueberries and a cupcake.

We have had some minor set backs with plural effusions and hazy x-rays, but we have fought off anything major with an extra dose of diuretics and keeping the CPT treatments throughout the day.

Praying specifically for the following:
Lucy's anxiety to subside
Lucy's oxygen saturation to stay about 75 with less than 2 liters of support
Lucy's stomach and vocal cords to heal
Lucy to gain strength
For us to be home soon

much love and thanks to our tremendous support system.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

hindsight

I keep thinking if I had known that Lucy was going to be re-inutbated early Wednesday morning, I would have made sure I held her all day Monday and Tuesday after the chest tubes came out.  Hindsight is cruel.  I have had plenty of cruel thoughts.  What if we fenestrated initially?  What if we didn't go to the cath lab?  What if I had pushed harder for her breathing treatments?  Why didn't I hold her?  Would any changes have gotten us home sooner?  Unfortunately none of those 'ifs' change where we are today, so I am moving on and remember that the day this tube comes out we'll be sitting in the chair together for as long as she'll let me.

I know so many have been waiting since last Wednesday for an update.  I thank you for being patient.
To be honest, not much has changed in the last week.  Wednesday to Friday we were trying to understand the reason for her lung issues.  Cultures of blood, urine and breathing tube along with a viral panel were sent.  All came back negative.  She had been on antibiotics as a precaution, so we aren't sure if those masked anything going on in her lungs.  We continued her breathing treatments in hopes of breaking up lung secretions.  Over the weekend we made minimal changes.  Mike and I just hung out, helped with her treatments and watched movies with Lucy.

Monday morning, the infectious disease doctor came to review Lucy's case to see if we could change or adjust her antibiotic regimen.  The first question she asked was, "who has been visiting?".  This is exactly why we are so strict about visitors.   Unfortunately you don't always know what you have been exposed to and for kids like Lucy, especially when her immune system is down, the littlest things can be devastating.  Her current regimen, they felt covered all her bases and that morning her x-ray looked better than it had since intubation.  Tuesday morning, her right lung had collapsed again.
The next step would be a rigid bronchoscopy.  This procedure is done in the OR under general anesthesia and would remove the large secretions blocking her airway.  Yesterday afternoon, Dr. Sherman (ENT) came to do a bedside evaluation and put her on the schedule as an add on.  She wasn't able to go Tuesday afternoon because you have to be NPO to go under anesthesia.
Can you guess what happened?  You can't, come on.  This morning, her large airways cleared up and x-ray looked better.  All you have to do is schedule something......and it appears that Lucy will then fix it.  With clear airways, a rigid bronchoscopy would not provide any benefit.  Here we are again in another vicious cycle.  Kids do better off the breathing tube after the fontan, to stay off the breathing tube she has to be able to cough up the secretions to keep her lungs open, she is having trouble coughing up secretions because they are thick, her secretions are thick because she is dehydrated, she needs to be dry because of her fontan physiology.  If her x-ray is the same tomorrow morning or even better, the team will start to weigh the risks and benefits of extubating.

Again, we're asking for prayers of strength.
-For Lucy to be strong enough to be extubated for good
-For Mike and I to continue to handle the uncertainty

I'm going to brag a little bit.  Miss Lucy has handled this intubation like a champ.  Usually kids need to be on moderate to heavy sedation in order to not pull the tube out.  But THIS GIRL has been on minimal sedation since Sunday.  She hates the breathing treatments and being deep suction (where they shove a tube down your throat to suction out secretions).  Yet, through every treatment, she follows your directions even as she cries.  Open your mouth...done, cough as hard as you can....done, one more time...done.  This is probably the hardest thing we've been through and she has been polite, respectful and a model patient.  We couldn't be more proud of how she has handled herself!

Only a true hospital kid falls asleep holding her breathing tube.










She was able to get a little play time in with water marbles.  These things are pretty neat.  The more water you add the bigger they get!